The top break-up songs for those coming out of a long-term relationship have been revealed, with Amy Winehouse’s 2006 track, Back To Black, taking the top spot.

A poll of 2,000 adults, who gone through at least one break-up from a long-term relationship, revealed that their preferred coping mechanism in this situation was listening to music.

Other popular songs to play on repeat while heartbroken include Whitney Houston’s 1992 ballad, I Will Always Love You, Adele’s chart-topping Someone Like You, and ABBA’s number 1 hit, Knowing Me, Knowing You.

But while nearly half of those polled turn to sad songs to help them through the breakdown of a relationship, not all break-up songs are melancholic.

More than four in ten opt for empowering and happy music, such as Gloria Gaynor’s I Will Survive and Taylor Swift ’s We Are Never Getting Back Together – which also featured in the list, alongside Destiny’s Child’s Survivor.

Beyoncé appeared on the list twice, with ‘Irreplaceable’ and ‘Single Ladies’ ( Image:  Jeff Kravitz/FilmMagic/Getty Images)
The playlist was curated by eharmony, whose relationship expert Rachael Lloyd has unveiled the seven stages of a breakup – including disillusionment, doubt, denial, anger, relapse, acceptance, and happiness – and shared her tips about how to approach them in a healthy way.

She said: “Going through a breakup brings out all sorts of emotions all at once, which can be overwhelming.

“Other times we might go on autopilot and block out difficult feelings. Listening to music can help unlock them and allow us to grieve our losses properly.”

It also emerged a third of heartbroken women focus on self-care practices to get them through a breakup, while only a quarter of men do the same.

Letting loose on a big night out also appeared to be equally popular for 24 per cent of singles.

Overall, men are least likely use any coping mechanisms (24 per cent) – such as eating comfort food, watching sad rom-coms, or exercising – to recover from a broken heart, compared to women (19 per cent).

Looking at their breakup history, the study revealed Brits have gone through an average of four breakups in their life, with the first one occurring at the age of 20.

And most of us believe five months is the right amount of time to wait before getting into a new relationship.

Meanwhile, four in ten adults say the first breakup is the hardest – although they concede coming out of a long-term relationship never seems to get easier.

Over half have been dumped in person, a third got dumped over text, and a quarter over the phone – while just under a fifth have simply been ghosted.

Rachael Lloyd added: “Going through a breakup is psychologically similar to grief, because you are losing someone who has played a big part in your life for a while.

Listening to music is the preferred coping mechanism after a breakup (Image: ullstein bild/Getty Images)
“So, it’s not surprising we feel things like denial and anger before being able to move on.

“Unlike grief though, we can “relapse” with that person, which leads to all sorts of self-sabotaging habits. You have to learn to be kind to yourself while pushing through.”

The study, conducted via OnePoll, also found four in ten adults turn to their friends for relationship advice, while over a quarter go to their family.

But a third of men do not seek anyone’s help, compared to just over a quarter of women.

Interestingly, different generations also approach breakups from varied angles.

Younger people (aged 25 to 34) admit they will go to a relationship therapist or counsellor to work through a breakup – which mirrors positive cultural shifts around mental health.

Whereas more conservative 55-to-64 year-olds are far more likely to lean on their friends, and only a fraction (5%) would be prepared to seek professional help.

But it turns out friends may not be our best counsellors either, as almost one in four received bad relationship advice from someone they know – increasing to more than four in ten in those aged 18 to 24.

But four in ten opt for empowering breakup songs, like I Will Survive by Gloria Gaynor ( Image: Angela Weiss/Getty Images)
Clichés like “there are plenty more fish in the sea” tend to do the rounds for the broken-hearted.

More than a third also admit their own experience has influenced the dating tips they’ve given someone else.

Rachael Lloyd said: “Most of us have a fairly subjective view when it comes to breakup advice, which is coloured by our own experiences with heartbreak. This isn’t always helpful, as each experience is unique.

“While we can help our friends recognise factors such as red flags, it’s also critical we don’t project ourselves into their story.

“If a loved one comes to you to discuss their relationship, resist the temptation to overshare about your own romantic traumas.”

It also emerged a bad breakup has prevented more than a quarter of respondents from getting into another relationship – affecting women (three in ten) more than men (two in ten).

Rachael Lloyd added: “A breakup should not be seen as just the conversation you have with your partner to end things.

“It is the entire period during which your body and mind process the pain before you can move on with your life.

“Accepting your emotions and reflecting on them allows you to grow as a person and go into the next relationship with perspective, rather than negative bias.”

TOP 30 BREAKUP SONGS:

Amy Winehouse – Back To Black

 

Whitney Houston – I Will Always Love You

 

Fleetwood Mac – Go Your Own Way

 

Adele – Someone Like You

 

Gloria Gaynor – I Will Survive

 

Sinead O’Connor – Nothing Compares 2 U

 

Taylor Swift – We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together

 

ABBA – Knowing Me, Knowing You

 

Dionne Warwick – Walk On By

 

No Doubt – Don’t Speak

 

Coldplay – Fix You

 

Beyoncé – Irreplaceable

 

Destiny’s Child – Survivor

 

Al Green – How Can You Mend A Broken Heart?

 

Ariana Grande – Thank U, Next

 

Kelly Clarkson – Since U Been Gone

 

Sam Smith – Stay With Me

 

Beyoncé – Single Ladies

 

James Blunt – Goodbye My Lover

 

Natalie Imbruglia – Torn

 

Bill Withers – Ain’t No Sunshine

 

Joy Division – Love Will Tear Us Apart

 

Justin Bieber – Love Yourself

 

Roy Orbinson – Crying

 

Toni Braxton – Unbreak My Heart

 

Boyz II Men – End Of The Road

 

Little Mix – Shout Out To My Ex

 

Carole King – It’s Too Late

 

John Legend – Used To Love You

 

Robyn – Dancing On My Own

The 7 stages of a breakup, and how to approach them positively, according to relationship expert Rachael Lloyd:

DISILLUSIONMENT. The relationship is dying, love is gone, and you both know it – yet you still observe a few golden moments which make you hold on to it. Nostalgia, mutual financial commitments, maybe even children – there are plenty of justifications to stay in an unhealthy relationship. That’s why it’s important to embrace the clarity that this sense of disillusionment has brought to your and your partner’s life. Build up the courage to admit that whatever happens next, you know it’s for the best.

 

DOUBT. Endings are so painful! What if you never get over it? This is partly because when we experience a breakup, we can go through the same kind of physical and mental withdrawal experienced by addicts quitting alcohol or drugs. The brain’s reward system crashes as our happiness hormones (serotonin and dopamine) head south. We can’t sleep or eat. However, this stage is temporary. Don’t let anything make you stay stuck in a relationship that no longer serves you. Sometimes, things aren’t meant to be, and it’s worth remembering that fortune favours the brave.

 

DENIAL. The decision has been made, it’s over. You just can’t get your head around it. You feel numb and shocked. Now is not the time to keep everything to yourself. Acceptance often comes from opening up to trusted family and friends. You cannot overcome something you’re shying away from. Keep talking to your loved ones to process your emotions – they will be on hand to help you make sense of your feelings.

 

ANGER AND GRIEF. It finally hits home, and you feel like playing the blame game. “If only, what if, why?”. Accepting the anger is part of healing, along with waves of grief which have you sobbing over your iPhone. Let these powerful emotions come up and find a way to transform the negative energy into positive adrenaline. Find coping resources and positive interactions such as going to the gym, listening to cathartic songs, meditating, and seeing friends.

 

RELAPSE. You’ve unblocked them and arranged to meet up. Don’t sabotage your progress and cave into sadness, sexual cravings, guilt or nostalgia. Detach yourself again and remember all the goals you’ve worked towards to. Minimise contact with your ex to stay on track.

 

ACCEPTANCE. At last, the clouds clear. They’re no longer on your mind the moment you wake up. You can forgive any romantic injuries and start to forget. You begin to smile again. Life is looking up, and you might even find a new flirtation. You realise there is a whole world out there waiting for you. Test the waters, get out of your comfort zone.

 

HAPPINESS. You feel yourself again. The cravings or pain associated with your ex are barely discernible. You have taken up new hobbies, moved on, and have grown from your experience. You’re able to reflect positively on the outcome and go into any new relationships with clear perspective. Now you should know yourself better, and be ready to try dating again and find a compatible match.